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Surviving A Breakup



If you’ve ever gone through a break up then you’ll know how incredibly painful it is; but in time, you can come out the other side having gained from the experience, with new found insight and wisdom.


Most of us walk this path at some stage in our life and it’s important to remember there will be future joy waiting round the corner, even though you may not think so at the time.


Firstly, you need time to grieve the loss of the relationship. Remember, the emotions you are experiencing are the same as a bereavement because you are grieving the loss of that partnership, and the loss of the future you thought you were going to have with that person.


All grief needs healing time, so don’t try to rush things. Similarly, don’t try to block things out with booze and pills as in the long run, melancholy will come back to bite you on the backside if you don’t ‘live’ the experience. Even if someone treated you badly, the relationship will have had lots of good moments so don’t beat yourself up for grieving someone who let you down.


Most humans would agree that we’re not meant to be alone and you will feel lonely. This is the time to connect with your family and your besties, and if you’re feeling up to it, join new things that enable you to establish new habits.


If I can offer one valuable piece of advice it’s this; If you’re feeling furious or mournful, then always employ the ‘two-day waiting period’ before messaging/phoning/or sharing on social media! How many times have you written or said something before bedtime, only to wake up the next morning with that toe-curling ‘OMG What Have I Done’ feeling? For the sake of your pride and dignity its simply not worth it.


Remember this, breakups are dreadful at the time, but they sure help you figure out who you are and what you want, and perhaps more importantly, what you DON’T want! You’ll be so much stronger for surviving and your future will be enriched because of that vital piece of learning.


There are plenty more bubbles in an Aero………


Marica x

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